What and How

The Emotionally Focused Therapy approach works with attachment principles — our hard-wired need for connection with each other. It is based on material developed by Sue Johnson, the originator of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and author of Hold Me Tight. It is about healthy emotional bonding; making emotional connections stronger and more explicit, AND about discovering the emotional patterns we each use that weaken that connection and bond.

We offer different formats to match your available time and needs.

COUPLES INTENSIVES:

Couples Intensive:  Private couples therapy: one couple and one therapist. We suggest the Intensive format if you would rather do your work in private; or when one or both members of the couple have had sexual, physical or emotional abuse in their history.

Five-Day Retreat: A structured format where you do most of the work privately with your partner. Group participation and work in the large group allows you to create new attachment experiences in a supportive community and discover how your more connected relationship supports you in a social milieu.

WEEKEND WORKSHOP

Hold Me Tight, is an extraordinary experience in exploring feelings, hopes, and fears with each other, it’s about connection. It is about strengthening the bond between you. You will do the work privately and be able to learn from the group. This is NOT therapy! And it will transform your relationship and give you the tools to grow.

If you are in Couples Therapy this workshop will energize your work with your therapist. 

Couples Retreats Formats

Signature “Hold Me Tight“ Couples Weekend Workshop

The “Hold Me Tight” weekend offers approximately thirteen hours of structured experiential healing conversations between you and your spouse, plus large group conversations with other couples. Subtitled “Conversations for Connection” this workshop is based on the book Hold Me Tight by Susan Johnson, the originator of EFT. This is an extraordinary experience in talking to each other about feelings, hopes, and fears: it’s about connection. It is about strengthening the bond between you. This is NOT therapy; and yet has the power to transform your relationship and enhance any work you do in couples or individual therapy. This is our signature workshop, the foundation for all our experiential work.

Hold Me Tight weekends meet Saturday 10 am to 9 pm, and Sunday 10 am to 2 pm. Cost is $525 per couple.

2019 WORKSHOPS and WEEKENDS for Couples and Therapists and Spouses

Couples: February 16 and 17 (for Valentines Day!)

Therapists and Spouses: February 1 thru 3; March 8 thru 10

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Couple’s Five-Day Residential Retreat

Five to seven couples meet at a residential retreat center and work with the couple’s process for five days. This retreat includes the structured conversations of the Hold Me Tight weekend and the Healing Relationship Injuries workshop plus more in-depth experiences. Each couple also works with the therapist in the group setting. The retreat begins Sunday evening and completes Friday at noon. This IS therapy and the healing of relationship and relationship traumas is expected.

Couple’s Five-Day Residential Retreats cost $750 per couple plus room and board facility fee.

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Couples Intensive Therapy Retreat

Couples Intensives offer four and one-half days of intensive work with a therapist: one couple and one therapist. As a couple, you meet with your therapist from 9 am to 1 pm for four days and from 9 am to noon the last day. Lunch and breaks are taken through the day. Some time is scheduled for each individual alone during the process.

Couples intensives are available at $625/day with a minimum of three days.

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Healing Relationship Injuries Workshop

A one day, 8-hour workshop designed around the forgiving injuries process developed in EFT. This workshop builds on the Hold Me Tight weekend (which is a pre-requisite) and involves the deep emotional work of healing attachment and relationship injuries. You work individually as a couple in the large group setting.

Healing Relationship Injuries workshop cost is $240 per couple. Pre-requisite: completion of Hold Me Tight weekend.

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